When it comes to admired things, we usually found ourselves craving for money, glamorous cars, lovely holidays, pretty faces, or luxurious houses. Among a long list of many other desirable things. But what do we envy when it comes to people? What are those traits that we aim the most when we find them in others?
Well. And despite what may seem, it is not wealthy people with glamorous cars, lovely holidays, pretty faces, or luxurious houses what attract us the most (although very tempting). When it comes to admiration, as this action motivating self-improvement by observing and appreciating the abilities of our role models, these are the top 10 characteristics that we highlight the most:
Understood as the ability to accept and love ourselves the way we are, without pretensions. Without hiding not the flaws, neither the blessings. With a full understanding of our own strengths and weaknesses. Humility, as is often thought, is not about a low view of one’s importance or poor living standards. Humility is about self-awareness and self-management.
Humble people are incredibly attractive. They are empowered and attiring because they have managed to love themselves, and self-confidence is powerful. They are charming because they do not look over anybody’s shoulder. Not even when they are greater than everybody else. They are engaging because they do not pretend they are perfect. They accept their limitations and focus on self-improvement.
2. The ability to learn
Not just in a pure-knowledge-way but in a life-changing way. We are all born with a circumstantial backpack. And usually, that’s fine. But sometimes it comes attached to also certain limitations. Being able to learn or most important, being open to learning, is a remarkable quality of highly successful people. And it is incredibly admirable because, at a certain point, we all know there are things we need to change or improve. But just open-minded learners are courageous enough to take off their backpack when needed.
Understood as the honest behavior of loyal human beings. Of those people that always look for win-win situations. Of those people that care about doing the right thing. That speak face to face. Nothing to be with being a fool, or looser or always letting things go. Integrity is about transparency. About doing what needs to be done but in the right way. Honest leaders are wanted. Because they are tough and successful but respectful and caring managers.
Or this quality of people who take ownership. People who finish what they have started. People who do not quit when things get tough. People that we can rely on. People who will be there until the end. People who take other people seriously. Responsible people are clearly followed because they provide others with a framework of safety and with the feeling of really mattered the most.
Or the capacity to pursue a goal, dream, objective, or wish until the very end. Resilient people are like bamboo in a hurricane—they bend rather than break. The move towards a goal beyond themselves, transcending possible pain and grief by perceiving bad times as a temporary state of affairs. They keep sailing when others have already abandoned the boat. And they usually finally arrive at the port when others are still looking for a new destination.
6. Compassion for others
“We all think we want to be loved, but what actually feels good to us is feeling loving—and part of what makes us feel more love for other people is doing kind, compassionate things for them,” stated clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Compassionate people are not just the happiest but also significantly attractive to others. They are not these soft and characterless beings doing just charity that we may have in mind. Compassionate leaders are simply empathetic. They know how to put themselves in other’s shoes, and they practice it regularly. So they listen, understand, and comprehend others around.
7. Respect for others
Especially the small ones. The intern, the cleaning lady, the beggars, the children, the elderly, the poor, the immigrant. Respectful leaders are not always able to change the world. But they see the intrinsic value in every single person. And they respect this value. They respect people’s time, efforts, and desires. They take care of tiny things because small things matter.
8. Big vision
We tend to admire people who think big because, whenever we do not dare to follow our own dreams, they prove us that big goals are possible. And this is clearly admirable. Human beings tend to narrow their vision down to daily affairs, regular stuff, and daily chores. And this is how life passes by for many. So when we find someone who sees the big picture, the whole thing, the long term end, we manage to look up and refresh our perspective.
9. Inspiring others
Human beings enjoy being emulated not just because of a matter of pride but also because of reassurance. Being able to inspire, to make other people follow and fight for our own battles is clearly a desirable quality because it proves us that we are doing things right.
10. Reinvent ourselves
“When life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”
With the magic powers of the Fenix and the flexibility of those who do not let circumstances to determine their own lives.